Title : : How to Kiss a Girl for the First Time | Kissing Techniques
So you finally got “the look” and you’re moving in for that killer kiss when it dawns on you that you need help—and fast. If you’re game to learn everything you need to know about who, what, when, where, why and how to kiss, you’ve come to the right place. Pucker up and let’s have some fun!
Keep your lips soft. Tense puckers are for family members or people you’re obligated to kiss, but keeping your mouth slightly parted and soft communicates a sense of openness.
Do a few soft kisses. Start slow with soft, gentle kisses and skip the tongue and the teeth — for now. If your partner seems receptive, you can move forward to French kissing.
Stay at a manageable level of saliva. Slobbery puppies are the last thing you want your date thinking of while you kiss him or her. Avoid this fate by swallowing excess saliva occasionally. If you notice that your lips are a bit too wet, pull away and discreetly purse them to bring the extra spit back into your mouth.
“Lock” lips. If your initial kisses have gone well, try a lip lock, which can lead to closer kisses (and is a nice gateway for French kissing). Basically, you’ll “stack” your lips so that (for instance) it looks like this
Your lower lip
Your partner’s lower lip
Your upper lip
Your partner’s upper lip
At first, putting your date’s lower lip between yours is the safest bet. Most people have larger lower lips, making them easier to grab gently with your lips.
Make sure to breathe. Ideally, you’ll be able to breathe softly through your nose while you’re kissing. If that’s not possible, though, break away for a second to take a breath.
Use your hands. Don’t just let your hands hang at your sides like two limp fettuccini noodles — put them to good use!
Test using tongue. Once you’re in a lip lock with your partner’s lower lip between both of yours, lightly run the tip of your tongue over it. If you can move it slowly, even better.
Try French kissing (optional). Using your tongue during a kiss is, in Western culture, referred to as a French kiss. Why do the French get the credit? Who knows! Here’s how to get started:
Mix it up. Don’t feel obligated to keep the intensive tongue activity going forever. Alternate soft and hard, slow and fast, deep and shallow. You can even go back to using only your lips for a few minutes.
Gently nibble your partner’s lips (optional). Teeth aren’t a necessary element of kissing, but a grazing them over your partner’s lip can introduce another unexpected element. Here are some quick pointers:
Increase the intensity with occasional breaks. Pull away for a moment to look into your partner’s eyes, whisper something in his or her ear, or simply catch your breath and marvel at your good fortune.